My mom has advanced dementia and is now residing in a memory care facility. I don’t think she knows who I am anymore and visits have become very hard for me and my family. We don’t know what to say to her or how to engage her in a meaningful way. I often walk away from the visits and wonder if it even matters if we visit any longer. But, then I feel awful for feeling that way because she was always there for me. As the holidays approach, it makes it even more difficult as so many memories include my mom who is here physically but isn’t present is other ways. What can I do to make visits better or should I simply step back and let time take its course?